Reward Yourself- 7 Ways

Practice self-love.

Rewards come in all shapes and sizes and don’t need to break the budget, but not doing it could break your back. We all need rewards, but we don’t need to wait for them to come externally. It’s not productive.


Know what makes you happy. Then do it. Sounds so easy. Often is not.

We all get busy. So much is expected of us. I recently learned that a friend’s 21 year old son uses 5 computer monitors simultaneously at his summer internship. FIVE monitors. How can one possibly practice balance or self-care when this is what we are doing to ourselves?

No one will love you more than you love yourself. Not your spouse. Not your doctor. No one. They might disguise themselves as a friend and tell you they love you, while they enable you to continue bad habits. OK, maybe not, but I believe no one will love you more than you love yourself, assuming good mental health

A friend of mine once taught me the difference between sympathy and support. Honestly, it was a lesson for me. Sympathy is given by wallowing alongside you, when you keep wallowing. Support is different – constructive, productive and progressive.

A friend might listen to you go on repeating the same things. They observe you repeat unhealthy patterns and yet they don’t point that out. They give their listening ear without limits. But a TRUE friend listens and then reflects back to you what YOU might be doing to bring the aggravation on yourself in a pattern, so that you might break the pattern.

I digress. Today is about rewarding oneself. Do it. Often and generously. Here are some suggestions that work for me:

  1. Bubble baths
  2. Martinis
  3. Ironing cloth dinner napkins- perfect commitment to ironing process…a napkin
  4. Blogging – I like to think everyone thinks I’m as brilliant as I think I am.
  5. Chatting online with friends. Not with strangers…
  6. TED talks, so easy, informative, entertaining and accessible
  7. Exercise in any form, even if just a walk around the block.

What are you waiting for?

Inertia won’t make you rich.  As obvious as that sounds, how often do you find yourself delaying action until you research a little more, analyze a bit longer, fret some more and other things we do to psyche ourselves into procrastination because we are afraid of not achieving perfection.

There’s always more time for research.  There’s always plenty to worry about.  But there’s no substitute for action.  And there’s no lesson like practical experience.

If you are learning something new, you can’t do it by reading about it.  You can only learn so much by watching someone else do it.  At some point you simply have to jump in and give it a go.

You won’t know all the answers.  You’ll probably stumble a little until you get more practice.  But that will only make you seem more human to your audience. 

Put yourself out there.  Whether an inside sales call, outside appointment, speaking engagement, job interview…whatever. 

What are you waiting for?